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“Breathe the sweetness that hovers in August.” ~ Denise Levertov The last few weeks before school starts carry a sweetness all their own. There is excitement building, but also a quiet sense that summer is beginning to slip away. The calendars start filling. The school supplies appear in every store. Families begin shifting bedtimes, making plans, and preparing for new routines. But before we rush into the backpacks, schedules, meetings, and first-day expectations, August rem

Flexibility Is a Practice A flexibility class is built around a simple idea: we become more flexible by practicing flexibility. We stretch carefully. We pay attention to resistance. We learn when to push a little farther and when to pause. We understand that progress cannot always be rushed or forced. The same is true in life and leadership. Flexibility does not mean having no boundaries. It does not mean bending until we break, changing our values, or adjusting ourselves to

Educational leadership rarely comes with the luxury of addressing one issue at a time. There are state mandates to interpret, reports to submit, initiatives to implement, budgets to monitor, meetings to attend, deadlines to meet, and emergencies that arrive without warning. Most days, nearly everything placed in front of us is important. Important and priority are not always the same thing. Something can be important without requiring our immediate attention. Something can be

In my presentations about teacher leadership, I often return to the idea that strong schools do not grow from leadership that sits in one office. They grow when leadership is intentionally cultivated, shared, supported, and sustained throughout the organization. I have also asked participants to consider whether we are truly creating more leadership or simply distributing more work. That distinction matters. Teacher leadership should not be about extracting more from capable

“I kind of realized that sometimes coaches and dads have conflicting jobs.” ~Ted Lasso (S4E1) That simple line from Ted Lasso captures something deeply true about the adults who surround young people. A coach’s job is to challenge, correct, raise expectations, and help an athlete become more than they thought they could be. A parent’s job is to protect, reassure, and provide the steady reminder that love and belonging are not dependent on a score, placement, starting position

Fall in Love with the Problem, Briefly “Fall in love with the problem, not the solution” is powerful advice. It reminds us to slow down, remain curious, and understand what is really happening before rushing to fix it. We should not live inside the problem forever. Give the problem your full attention for 90 seconds. Ask what is happening beneath the surface. Consider who is affected, what assumptions you may be making, and whether you are addressing the real issue or simply

Why are there mirrors in a dance studio? The obvious answer is that dancers need to see themselves. They need to check their posture, placement, alignment, timing, and technique. They need to see whether the movement they believe they are making is the movement they are actually making. The mirrors are not there so dancers can simply admire themselves. They are there to provide information. A dancer may feel that an arm is fully extended when it is slightly bent. A turn may f

A student completes a lesson successfully. They answer the questions, participate in the activity, and demonstrate the skill on the assessment. Then, a few days later, they encounter the same idea in a slightly different situation and seem unable to recognize it. Teachers are often left wondering: But we just learned this. The challenge may not be that the student failed to learn the skill. The challenge may be that the student has not yet learned how to transfer it. Transfer

“In summer, the song sings itself.” ~William Carlos Williams There is something about summer that asks less of us. The days stretch a little longer. The light stays with us. Windows open, music carries farther, and even ordinary moments begin to feel like memories while we are still living them. Summer reminds us that not everything meaningful has to be forced, scheduled, or carefully produced. Sometimes joy arrives on its own. It is found in bare feet, evening skies, unexpec

Why Children Need Disappointment, Failure, Rejection, Grief, and the Chance to Discover That They Can Survive Them There is a particular expression that passes across a child’s face when something they deeply wanted does not happen. A name is missing from the list. A friend chooses someone else. A role goes to another student. The judge announces the placements, and the number they hoped to hear never comes. The invitation does not arrive. The grade is lower than expected. Th

The Middle of Summer The middle of summer has a rhythm all its own. The excitement of the last day of school has faded, but the rush of a new year has not yet begun. The days are still long. The evenings still invite us to linger. Yet somewhere beneath the sunshine, we may already feel the calendar beginning to move. This is the moment to pause. Not to count how many days are left. Not to make a list of everything we have not yet done. Not to rush toward what comes next. Inst

My parents were watching a video of my daughter’s competition when they noticed something happening far in the background. Across the gymnasium, well behind my daughter, someone threw her arms up and cheered when my daughter’s name was announced. The moment was small enough that I had not noticed it at first, but my parents did. They wanted to know who she was because her joy was unmistakable. It was my friend. She and her athlete live in another state. They compete for anoth

The photo is of my child and her teammate waiting to hear whether their names would be called for the semifinals. They had competed against one another. They both wanted the same opportunity. Yet, while they waited, they held hands. This is what it is about. We talk often in education about social-emotional learning. We create lessons about empathy, sportsmanship, self-regulation, kindness, and responsible decision-making. We build character education programs and identify th

“Youth sports are not only about building better athletes. They are about building young people who know how to work hard, handle disappointment, celebrate others, support a team, and keep going.” ~Dr. Catherine V. Addor We often measure youth sports by scores, placements, trophies, titles, and advancement. We ask who won, who qualified, who made the team, and who earned the highest score. Those things matter. Young athletes should be encouraged to set goals, work hard, compe

Leadership can become surprisingly sedentary. The meetings pile up. The emails keep coming. Problems arrive at the office door. Before long, leaders can spend most of the day sitting behind a desk, responding to what is directly in front of them while becoming increasingly disconnected from what is happening around them. One of the most valuable leadership practices I developed was also one of the simplest: taking a walk. Whenever the weather permitted, I took a 20-minute wal

Ballet often looks effortless from the audience. What we do not see are the hours of practice, repeated corrections, sore muscles, missed steps, and moments of frustration that came before the performance. Ballet teaches us to pay attention to the smallest details. The placement of a foot, the direction of the eyes, the position of a hand, and the timing of a breath all matter. There is mindfulness in that level of focus. A dancer cannot stay stuck on the step they just misse

The other day, someone walked past me wearing a T-shirt that read, “No Risk, No Story.” It was one of those simple statements that stays with you long after the person wearing it has disappeared into the crowd. I immediately thought about classrooms. Every day, students are asked to take risks. They raise their hands without knowing whether their answer is correct. They read aloud when they are unsure of a word. They share an idea that may be different from everyone else’s. T

Thoughtful Thursday “It is nice to have valid competition; it pushes you to do better.” ~ Gianni Versace Competition has the power to bring out the best in us, but only when we allow it to inspire rather than intimidate us. Valid competition is not about hoping someone else fails so that we can succeed. It is about recognizing excellence, respecting the work behind it, and allowing it to challenge us to raise our own standards. The strongest competitors are often the ones who

The Last Four Minutes We all have routines. Some are obvious, while others quietly become part of who we are without us even realizing it. For years, mine was simple. During the last four minutes of my drive to work each morning, I would make sure Have It All by Jason Mraz was playing. It became much more than a song. It became my transition. Those final moments allowed me to leave behind whatever I was carrying from home, mentally prepare for the day ahead, and remind myself

When we are little, adults love to ask us, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” For a while, the answers are usually a mix of fantasy, imagination, and whatever feels exciting in the moment. Astronaut. Singer. Veterinarian. Teacher. President. Broadway star. Professional athlete. Sometimes all of them in the same week. For me, the answer did not really begin to solidify beyond fantasy until middle school, when I met Mr. Clausen, my 7th grade science teacher. He taught s