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My parents were watching a video of my daughter’s competition when they noticed something happening far in the background. Across the gymnasium, well behind my daughter, someone threw her arms up and cheered when my daughter’s name was announced. The moment was small enough that I had not noticed it at first, but my parents did. They wanted to know who she was because her joy was unmistakable. It was my friend. She and her athlete live in another state. They compete for anoth

Leadership can become surprisingly sedentary. The meetings pile up. The emails keep coming. Problems arrive at the office door. Before long, leaders can spend most of the day sitting behind a desk, responding to what is directly in front of them while becoming increasingly disconnected from what is happening around them. One of the most valuable leadership practices I developed was also one of the simplest: taking a walk. Whenever the weather permitted, I took a 20-minute wal

As we celebrate the Fourth of July and look toward the 250th anniversary of the United States, it is worth pausing to think about what freedom really asks of us. Independence is not only a historical event, a fireworks display, or a long weekend. It is an ongoing responsibility to participate, to listen, to learn, to question, and to help build a country that lives closer to its ideals. The story of America has never been simple. It is a story of courage and contradiction, sa

Sometimes the most difficult leadership moments are not about one behavior, complaint, meeting, email, or conflict we can see. They are about the pattern underneath it. The coercive cycle of interaction occurs when two people or two groups become locked in a repeated back-and-forth pattern in which behavior escalates, reactions intensify, and eventually someone gives in just to make the moment stop. In school leadership, this can happen between administrators and teachers, ce

Years ago, I was standing in line at the "happiest place on Earth" with my kids. We were away. We were together. We were supposed to be in one of those rare pockets of time where the outside world fades and your full attention belongs to the people right in front of you. My phone rang. It was the middle school principal calling about grant applications. Not a crisis. Not an emergency. Not something that needed to interrupt a family trip. I still do not know why I picked up th

The hallway is quiet long after the last bus has pulled away. A principal sits at their desk, staring at a list that keeps growing no matter how much gets crossed off. Emails unanswered. Conversations unfinished. Decisions waiting. Leadership can feel like this. Isolating. Heavy. Relentless. The truth that changes everything is simple and often overlooked. The people who truly want to see you win will help you win. In K–12 administration, that is not a feel-good idea. It is a

There was a time when the memes felt accurate. The exhausted teacher. The eye roll in the staff meeting. The quiet countdown to Friday. Those “funny” posts about dysfunction are not harmless. They are cultural artifacts. They tell the truth about how people feel when systems are misaligned, when voices go unheard, and when purpose gets buried under pressure. Here is the harder truth. When those memes resonate, they are not jokes. They are signals. After stepping away from the

There is a moment in every career when the next step stops looking like a promotion and starts looking like a reckoning. The title may change, the influence may expand, but the weight shifts in ways no job description ever fully captures. I remember standing in a hallway after a long and grueling Board of Education meeting. The kind of meeting that drains every ounce of composure, where every decision is scrutinized, and every word feels political. What I saw next has stayed

A simple sentence. A powerful truth. One that sits at the center of innovation, leadership, and learning. In a world that rewards speed, immediacy, and constant response, patience can feel like a liability. Emails demand quick replies. Meetings move rapidly. Classrooms are often paced by coverage rather than depth. Decisions are expected on the spot. Yet the most meaningful ideas, the ones that shift thinking, inspire action, and create lasting change, rarely come from urgenc

It takes patience to find the words to say what you mean. ~Mary McCarthy In a world that rewards speed, reaction, and immediate response, patience with language has become a quiet act of leadership. The right words do more than communicate. They clarify thinking, honor relationships, and shape outcomes. When we rush our words, we often say what is easiest. When we slow down, we say what is true. Take a moment before you speak or write. Ask yourself what you really want the ot

Every leader eventually encounters a difficult truth about organizations. Some supervisors do not elevate the people they lead. Some supervisors take ownership of others' ideas and work. Some supervisors carefully curate their image upward while quietly silencing the voices beneath them. Insecure leadership has many subtle forms. Ideas are repackaged without acknowledgment. Credit moves upward rather than outward. Voices are edited, managed, or rewritten until the person behi

The Quiet Power of Women Who Show Up Many of the women who shape our lives never appear in history books. They are teachers who stay after school to help a student understand. Mothers who sit at the kitchen table, guiding homework after a long day. Coaches who teach young athletes how to persevere. Colleagues who offer encouragement when leadership feels heavy. Women’s History Month often celebrates famous names. Mindful reflection reminds us that history is also shaped by wo

Who Benefits From This Decision? Before you finalize the plan. Before you send the email. Before you approve the policy. Pause and ask one simple question: Who benefits from this decision? Does it serve students or adult convenience? Does it create clarity or control? Does it widen access or protect comfort? Does it move the mission forward or preserve the status quo? Every leadership choice redistributes something. Time. Energy. Opportunity. Voice. Mindfulness in leadership

“March is the month of expectation.” — Emily Dickinson Expectation is a powerful word. It will be March this weekend. March sits between what was and what could be. Winter has not fully released its grip. Spring has not fully arrived. This is the space of anticipation. The space where we prepare before we see results. In schools, in leadership, in life, March moments matter. Expectation is not passive wishing. It is active readiness. It is planned to plant the garden before t

“You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines.” ~Shirley Chisholm Progress rarely comes from waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, or the perfect conditions. Growth happens when we step in, when we lend our voice, take the risk, ask the question, and do the work even when it feels uncomfortable. Leadership, learning, and change all begin with participation. Today’s reminder: show up, lean in, and be part of what you hope to see improve. #ThoughtfulThursday

Stop Calling Grown Women “Kiddo” I am 55 years old. I’ve worked since I was 16. I spent 34 years in education, most of them in leadership roles. I’ve presented in rooms filled with thousands of people. I’ve earned a doctorate. I’ve been published. I’ve led districts, built programs, managed teams, and navigated crises. Across my entire career (from my twenties to this very day), men I have worked for and alongside have called me “kiddo.” Not once. Not occasionally. Consistent

In a profession built on standards, pacing guides, learning targets, and measurable outcomes, the idea of provoking uncertainty can feel counterintuitive. We are trained to plan for clarity, anticipate misconceptions, scaffold understanding, and ensure students “get it.” Structure matters. Purpose matters. Intentionality matters. So does discomfort. Growth doesn’t happen in certainty. Growth happens when certainty is disrupted. Some of the most powerful learning moments I’ve

There is a quiet pattern in schools that is so familiar it often goes unnamed. It begins with competence. Reliability. The ability to see what needs to be done and step in without being asked. It begins with trust. The kind that leaders rely on, colleagues lean into, and students benefit from every single day. Then, slowly, the asks start to multiply. Not because the teacher asked for more, but because they can do more. They handle complexity with grace. They don’t complain.

There’s a special kind of damage that happens when someone unready for leadership gains power. It’s not always loud or visible. Sometimes it’s whispered in group chats named “sabotage.” Sometimes it’s measured on a dry-erase board that reads, “Days since someone cried.” Sometimes it’s hidden behind a smile and a stolen credit for another person’s work. I have seen all of it. Leaders who weaponize control, who hoard information, who keep mental (and sometimes literal) files on

Fundamental Friday: Integrity at the Interview Table When educators and leaders pursue new opportunities, the unspoken tension often...