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The photo is of my child and her teammate waiting to hear whether their names would be called for the semifinals. They had competed against one another. They both wanted the same opportunity. Yet, while they waited, they held hands. This is what it is about. We talk often in education about social-emotional learning. We create lessons about empathy, sportsmanship, self-regulation, kindness, and responsible decision-making. We build character education programs and identify th

Social media has changed the way students communicate, connect, disagree, joke, and build relationships. It has also changed the way words land, because online comments arrive without the things that help us understand one another in real life: body language, facial expressions, voice intonation, pauses, softness, hesitation, and repair. In a classroom, a student can usually tell when a joke has gone too far. They can see someone’s face fall. They can hear the change in someo

Last Friday, my daughter went to her 8th-grade dance. There was the dress, the pictures, the friends, the excitement, the small moments that somehow become big memories before we even realize it. Watching her step into that milestone brought me right back to my own 8th-grade dance. Not because of the decorations. Not because of the music. Not because I remember every detail of what I wore or who stood where in the gym. But because of the boy I went with. Years later, when I w

Because You Are “Be kind to people. Not because they’re nice, but because you are.” ~ Stephen Colbert This quote is a quiet challenge. It reminds us that kindness is not supposed to be transactional. It is not something we offer only when people are easy, agreeable, grateful, or kind first. Real kindness begins with who we choose to be, not with how someone else chooses to behave. In schools, this matters deeply. Children and adults both have hard days. People arrive carrying