When a child is angry, defiant, overwhelmed, shut down, sarcastic, tearful, impulsive, or explosive, the behavior is often the loudest part of the moment. It gets our attention first. It can feel personal. It can make adults want to correct quickly, raise the volume, tighten control, or demand compliance. The fundamental truth is that a dysregulated child does not usually need an adult to join the dysregulation. They need an adult who can remain steady enough to help them fin
